A milestone for Caylee.
The night of 17th Nov 2013, she declares "I am big girl already. At night no need to wear diaper already!"
Actually for weeks preceding, she has been taking out her diaper in the middle of the night and sleeping diaper-less the rest of the night. Sometimes even pant-less. Reason being she takes her diaper out to go to toilet and then wets her pants. Then she takes out her pants and then goes back to bed. So effectively, she is pee-ing in her pants.
So, we tried.
Before going to bed she goes to toilet 2 times. Once being just before lights out.
This morning, I saw her sleeping on her mattress nearer to the potty and her potty was full.
Meaning she woke up by herself in the middle of the night, went to the potty and then went back to sleep. All on her own!
What a difference for this girl! She is really independent in her own way and knows her capabilities. I have never heard of a child who decides for herself the right time to go diaperless at night. It was little effort on my side. I just let her be and she did it on her own!
Monday, November 18, 2013
A milestone for Caylee.
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Over the long Haji weekend, we decided to make a trip to Camerons and Ipoh.
It would be our last trip with a convenient stop at Ipoh. My parents will officially sign the S&P for the sale of their Ipoh house tommorrow.
We stayed in Equatorial again. Partly due to the Groupon offer. Partly due to the fact that we love the location.
It was freezing this time round. Mainly because of the rain. We had our jackets on almost ALL of the time. And poor hubby of mine was freezing. I never used to bring his since he never had any use for it previously.
We went park visiting this time round. Went to the new Lavendar Garden. And also the Butterfly Farm.
Loved the Lavendar Garden coz it was on a hill and had bountiful of blooming flowers.
The boy was very eager to go to the Butterfly Farm mainly coz he wanted to see the scorpions. He has been very curious about live insects and animals since watching National Geography. I am trying to cut down on his cartoon watching. The girl however screamed at the flying butterflies. If only they had ears....they would have left her all alone!
Back in Ipoh, I managed to visit Gunung Lang at last. I loved the boat ride. It was so tranquil. And 1 hour running with the kids was grand. It rained the evening before so the playground was only half half accessible.
I wonder.....the next time I am in Ipoh, I will be half tourist, since I will need to stay in a hotel. I wonder if as a half tourist, I would do more tourisy things.....will my approach to Ipoh change?
Had my first major accident in Oct 2013. Happened along LDP going own the Sunway Piramid bridge. Knocked into a Honda CRV.
I didn't claim insurance since the family in the CRV was kind enough to deal with it with me. He came to my workshop to get his damage assessed and accepted the 700 that was quoted to get his dents repaired.
My own damage cost 1600. And internal repair another 1200.
Many asked me if I have fear to drive now?
I told them 'No'. Maybe my dad's training of doing it as soon as you fall to get over your fear. So, I got back behind the wheel and drove like normal.
But today on my way to work, it rained heavily. And for once since the accident, I felt a little bit of fear. Especially since I saw 4 accidents along the way. One involving a motorcyclist, and he was sprawled on the road holding his arm. Another major one was a 6 car pile up, with an Insight car squashed in the middle.
I am grateful that I escaped my accident relatively unharmed. And I found through out my journey that I lost my guts to really drive confidently fast. These days I stick to the middle lane and going down slopes, I keep a relative distance.
It was a small damage physically....but a huge lesson on driving patience.
Thursday, September 12, 2013
Date : 31st August 2013
At last managed to kick start my road trips. And to my much desired destination Tanjung Sepat. I have read so much about Lovers Bridge and the good food there and have been dying to go.
Let me get straight to the point of Lovers Bridge. It has broke!!! You can only walk a wee bit out on the bridge now. And in fact there is a warning to walk at your own risk! So much for that being the highlight of the trip. In fact by the time we were on Lovers Bridge ad ready for dinner, we were all quite tired. Just took the customary pics without the kids - lovers bridge mah! And headed for dinner....
Dinner was disappointing too. Being a public holiday, the one next to Lovers Bridge was packed. So, we went to the adjacent one. We waited 1 hour for our dinner and had such a depressing conversation! Hahaha.....Hunger and serious talk sure don't go well.
The earlier part of the trip was more enjoyable.
If you google image Tanjung Sepat, chances are you will get a image of a map. We started at the Dragon Fruit farm end and made our way down.
Loved the dragon fruit and passion fruit farm. They had some weird animals - monkeys and civet cat - which attracted the boy more than the fruits! Had blended fruit drinks. Bought some dragon fruits.
Next - Arowana Chips. To be honest, I found this factory a waste of time. It was fun finding it and then once you have found the 'treasure' in the hunt, don't tell me don't buy anything meh? And that may be the only reason it is still surviving today. The kacang putih village in Buntong Ipoh is so much better.
3rd pit stop - fish ball. One shoplot making fishball. Freshness guaranteed. Though how this particular one managed to make it on the map I wonder. I didn't get any fish balls here.
Lunch time - it was already pass 1 pm. We wanted to go to the famous BKT shop BUT it was closed! Darn! Bummer.....
In the end just parked the car along one of the streets and had street food - literally!
Tanjung Sepat town is an experience on its own. Because it was a holiday, I really felt I could just stand there and take in all the hustle and bustle supporting this home industries. Look straight was the pau shop, behind me was a shop selling fried tempura-like seafood, a bit to my right was one of the coffee shops, a bit to the right was a shop selling fruit juices. And at every nook and corner along that 200 m radius were shops selling all kinds of the same thing - fruits, its juices, raw fish, cooked fish, steamed pau, non steamed pau, coffee packets, cups of coffee etc. And there was freshly baked bahulu and old time ice lollies.
We had lunch - coffee was GREAT! The fried fish cakes etc was yummy. I am not a pau fan but they have some famous ones there - mui choy pau etc. I bought some cooked fish balls and fish rolls here. Loved it when I cooked it again at home. Very fresh.
So at 2++, after lunch we made our way to the other coffee place. We saw coffee bean selections in the process, and the actual roasting of the beans in Planta. I should not look at the process because the though of Planta in my coffee somewhat turns me off. But coming home and brewing the coffee bag, I can easily forget what was in my coffee.
At 3++, next stop Ganofarm. It was a bit of a disappointment coz there was no farm. Only a small section showing how mushrooms were grown. I saw for the first time fresh muk yue - elephant ear mushrooms do they call it? Bought some mushroom, aloe, suet yue drinks. Bought also some mushrooms and some soap (for my mother inlaw). Don't ask about the soap - it is supposedly antibacterial. Son buy for mother, don't ask so many questions. :)
It was still too early for dinner and it was drizzling. So no hope to play by the beach or hang out at lovers bridge, we went to Golden Palm Resort. Before reaching the resort, little boy whined wanted to play at the beach. So Uncle Simon stopped for him. LORD !! We ended up there for 2 hours and had 1 very wet kid, 2 semi wet girls and 2 harassed mothers. The xx amount of bottles of water meant to clean up was barely enough. And I seriously pitied the state of the care when we climbed in. Simon and Wai Yin, if you ever read this....thousand apologies and sincere thanks.
The resort was lovely. The weather was great. We had a nice stroll....if it is sunny, please don't attempt to do this. The walk from lobby to the infinity pool is very long. :) Would make a nice jog up and down though.
The pool looked nice - infinite to the sea.....but too small. If we had a SG retreat there, we would fill up the entire pool.
Last stop was back to Tanjung Sepat town for dinner. And so we come full circle back to the top.
We reached Puchong at 10 and back home at 11. It was the day PJ had no water. And we were thankful that by the time we reached home, water was trickling down from our pipes. I can't imagine washing up sand and sea if not! :)
What I enjoyed most about the trip was not so much the experience of the town itself. But the company of same expectations makes the trip smooth and fun.
Sunday, September 8, 2013
Now if you ask Caylee "Do you want to go to Ipoh with Kung kung and Poh poh?"
Her answer will be "NO." And if prompted further, she will ask if kor kor is going, mummy is going etc.
In fact the other day when kor kor says he wants to go to Ipoh, she told kor kor "Please don't go. I will miss you."
Despite it all, there is strength in the core family. And that is the way it should be.
So for the week and a half from end August to Sept 2013, I had a brief 'respite' from Caylee. I can safely put the word respite in inverted comma because I realized that despite all that Caylee is, she is a great help and cure to me.
She mothers me as much as I mother her. The day she came back, she checked me out and 'sayang' all my cuts and bruises. Cocked her head to one side and asked me "Pain ah mummy?" My heart literally melted.
And she needs me as much as I need her to need me. Perhaps in my heart she is still my little girl and I know one day she will be old enough to reject me. But as of now, she needs me just enough. Not too much that I find her a chore. She is rather independent in that way. And she tries very hard to get things done by herself first. So much so, you really gotta smile at her efforts. And helping her complete the task she could not complete herself becomes more a relief to me than anything else.
I also realized that no one feels the same way about my daughter. Most of the people who have come in contact with her for a longer period of time find her a cry-baby and too stubborn a child. Stubborn I would say to the point that she means what she says. And she is able to act according to what has been said. So, as much as she wants to go to the playground, she will not go. And she is happy to stay at home since she could not finish her breakfast as requested. And she couldn't finish her breakfast because she said she was full.
For a girl, in some ways that is a good thing. I have never felt this friction before. I reckon it's because Caylee and I have different dynamics.
When Caylee was away, I also realized one more thing - that I become quicker to respond when Christopher is being taken away from me without my permission when we are OUT. I actually do not mind him going away with his uncles - although I can't say that ALL of his uncles are the most dependable to take care of Christopher. However, I hate it when I turn around and find him not where he is supposed to be - either sitting down quietly or eating his dinner.
So all in all, I think I am glad that her "NO" to go back to Ipoh is so resounding. When she is away, there is no significant relief for me. Instead it becomes harder for her grandparents. So it's a win-win all round if she just stays by my side.
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
It's not easy at all being a mum. Not just the bringing up of a child. But you as a person will need to confront many things.
I am frequently humbled.
I learn to take criticism better.
I learn to laugh easier.
I learn to watch my mouth.
From the top of my head list as above, the easiest lesson is humility. So, you can imagine how much harder the others are. I am a very sensitive person so I find it very hard to take criticism in a positive manner. I always tend to look down on myself and criticism usually further pushes me into the realm of near depression.
I watch my mouth more now. Not only in terms of what I say to the kids or in front of them. But what I am inclined to comment on. When a child misbehaves, if I don't know the family, I would hold back any comment. Because as much as I am strict about my kids misbehaving, sometimes it happens and I am unable to stop it in time. And the other party would think me a lousy parent. When in truth it was a one time situation got out of hand before it could be stopped. Or when I see a kid cross the road dangerously, I wouldn't be so quick now to put blame on the parents. Since it has happened one day when I looked down for a minute and Christopher decided to cross the road. And a car turned the corner and had to stop for him. How many times I have told him to wait for me, hold my hand, look right and left. Yet on that day it happened and a car went by.
I learn to laugh when my kids laugh. And I learn to laugh when they don't laugh. And I learn to laugh just to break the tension.
They say a kid learns from your actions more than your words.
I thought parenting was always about moulding the kid. But it's also highly about changing yourself as well.
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