Sunday, December 30, 2007

Happy New Year everyone!
May your delight be doubled,
your experiences deepened
and your troubles divided...

Friday, December 28, 2007

Signal of new-ness

The New Year needs a New look.....

This marks the signalling of a new beginning. Time to think of a resolution that perhaps I could seriously work on beginning this year....

Do you believe in New Year resolutions?
What will yours be this year?

Marathon in my mind

Do your thoughts ever run away with you?

Look at the train carrying my thoughts while I was in the shower today.....

1) I think I shall not cook rice since hubby wants to eat Maggi Mee
2) Wonder why he has not eaten Maggi Mee any sooner if he wants to eat it?
3) He was at Bangsar yesterday so why didn't he go Nirwana to eat Maggi Mee
4) People drop hair from eating too much Maggi Mee
5) Wonder if there really is some special shampoo to stop hair from dropping
6) Brandy is too expensive
7) Daddy will kill me if I use brandy
8) The fruit cake that PN made with brandy sure tasted good
9) Wonder if they still sell the chocolates with brandy filling
10) Why don't they have that every other time? Why only during Christmas?
11) I wonder if they associate brandy wuth Christmas
12) People drink brandy all the time
13) Wonder if David White drank alot for Christmas
14) David White and his nasi goreng kampung tak mahu ikan bilis
15) Ohhh....crunchy ikan bilis goes well with beer
16) Sigh...I don't drink beer
17) Ikan bilis has high colesterol
18) How can a small little fish have high colesterol?
19) Must be the oil
20) Hmm...don't need to cook rice today
21) Wah...very hungry already...going to eat after this

Finish my bath....had to concentrate on getting dressed now....

And the TV was on after that so my train of thought reached the train station. Refuelling....

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

memories and milestones

"So how was Ipoh?"

There is a different aspect to this posting. A simplier one.

Ipoh was a reminder of confinement, baby's vomit, waking up at 2 am and 4 am and 6 am!

The same nostalgic (can I say it was nostalgic???) feeling came back every night when I retired to bed. Remember the right side of the bed where baby's bedding was and how often I lie on my right to watch him sleep. Now hubby takes up that place again.

Remember how I used to come up to bed at 10 pm knowing that I would have to get up again at 2 am!

I remember the table in the room that was filled with boy boy's stuff...the milk powder and bottles lined up for usage, the diapers in one stack just in case.

When you become a mother, you naturally have to become a good planner as well. Always preparing all required items nearby in case emergency strikes!

It's so different now.

They are right when they tell me that time passes by really quickly. And we wish that we had not wished it away so quickly previously.

Boyboy created another milestone for himself 2 weeks ago...he can now lift his head perfectly and for many more minutes. He is struggling to learn to crawl and turn over though. But I think it will happen in no time. He is one determined 'creature'!

Only now can I truly say I appreciate the moment!

He moves ever so much and Sony or not, pictures are getting harder to take!

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

So how was Ipoh?

"So how was Ipoh?" That was the first thing Simon asked me when I saw him on Christmas Day!

(Merry Christmas to all my readers, by the way)

We went back on Saturday morning after boy boy's feed. Not as early as I would have wanted and by the time we arrived in Ipoh and deposited boy boy to granny's place, it was almost 2 pm. LUNCH TIME !!!

Went to a nearby coffee shop to eat....too hungry to wait any longer. We had Indian rice, popiah, 'siew yoke' (roasted pork) and 2 cups of wonderful 'fu chok yee mai' (beancurd with barley).

I have to mention it in Cantonese because half the nostalgic feeling comes from saying it in Chinese to an Indonesian waitress! I mean that shows how famous it is....and how GOOD!

Ipoh food has always been about quality...this is where leong fan (Black jelly/cincau) and tau fu rules, after all!

Then we went to JJ...there aren't that many shopping areas to choose from in Ipoh! Reckon they have more cave temples than decent shopping complexes!! HOWEVER....needed some serious retail therapy and ended up buying all the necessities required to return to work!

Ahhh....have to go back already after 3 hours out! was open presents time! Yeah...I know, Christmas is but far round the corner...but circumstances were such that we would not have time after that! So...tearing of paper and hahaha and in the middle of it all.....Ahhh Goo Ahhh Goo....

It was also 'Tung' (Chinese Thanksgiving) on Saturday so we had a BIG FEAST as well. 'Hoong Siew Yew Tau' (a Fish Head dish..cooked the Hoong way!), 'Chu Keok Chou' (Sour pig trotters), Acar, Vege, 'Hou Chien' (Oyster Omelette') was all yummy. To top it all up, had black sesame and peanut tong yuen. And to wash it all down a nice cup of South African red wine.

(My stomach chooses to open up extra compartments when it comes to feasts like this)

OK.....shall spare the details now (baby's going to wake up soon) !

Other interesting aspects of our trip include a visit to this really cool place - Andersonians Cafe! They sell really good Indian food - banana leaf rice in the afternoon and Indian bread is available for dinner. We actually wanted to try the breads....but sigh....maybe next time.

Managed to take a photo of the signboard as hubby was driving by (the magic of Sony) !

This were the specialities of the day !!

But they was one dish which was really mutton! The taste is like NOTHING I have ever tried before! leaf of rice and dhall! (very little rice, I know!!!)

The vegetable condiments that we were given. The final empty canister was filled with freshly cooked long beans shortly after!

We also had a few other dishes...sotong, chicken, another mutton dish, papadam..etc. ALL wonderful to taste!

And to round it all up, we had mango lassie and almond tea. The tea is really aromatic with the smell and taste of you can see!

It was a great family affair.....cost us RM40 (my mum told him I was going to give him free advertising!!)

After lunch as usualy, hubby and I went shopping....more to walk off the meal and spend some alone time.

Daddy and mummy had a singing performance in church - for 3 nights in 3 different churches, so nights were pretty quiet for us - baby sitting you know!

Dressed boy boy up one Christmas eve night to see granny and granddad sing! Wore his new Christmas present from Grandparents - a blue bear outfit!

And of course a trip to Ipoh wouldn't be complete without Funny Mountain! We had our Sun Yin Loong white coffee as well (twice) but that was gone so fast, no time for photo taking!

All pictures taken are complements of Sony!

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Another new toy...

And so, hubby got another new toy. At least this one, I know he will be playing with it more often.

His previous toy is stacked atop our wardrobe gathering dust!

He was supposed to get the DSC-W80 costing RM999 but due to some memory thingy, he got persuaded into buying the DSC-W90 instead for RM 1,199. (Don't think he needed much persuasion though! :)) Looks quite nice doesn't it!

Anyway, he brought it back proudly and started snapping some shots around the house and in the balcony and trying out all the functions! He even took it to bed and started fiddling with it while lying down!

I was against buying the camera at first...and was not persuaded we needed to change our camera even when I relented to him buying it....but now I see that it is a good buy.

Boy boy can move and move all he likes and the shot still comes out clear!

So...looks like more shots of my son will be taken now. And looks like we will have a new companion in bed for a few days more. And looks like I can get him to do more chores for a few days longer too!!!

I am glad I consented to his new toy now. It is a joy to see him happy.

Hubby is happy, hubby makes wifey happy and wifey makes baby happy too!!!
One big happy family.

Saturday, December 15, 2007

2 hours of therapy

Theurapatic shopping. That was what 2 hours in Ikano was to me this evening.

Perhaps it was also the carols being sung...
Or the children tugging at mummy and daddy's hands...
Or that I had an UN-interrupted dinner after so many hasty meals on my feet...
Perhaps it was just Christmas.

I was a bunch of nerves when I left the house...and a bunch of laughter upon returning. Happy mummies make for a happier baby coz I was singing and cooing (AGAIN) to my lil one when I returned.

Deco in The Curve is good. Less elaborate than 1U but more homely(literally...they used a winter wonder home as deco). I think I like it BEST!

Ummm...I think probably because I did not have lunch today, it would account for the following discoveries I made.

1) Teppanyaki in Ikano SUCKS!!! Or at least the noodles...tasteless soup...but I finished it anyway...HUNGRY!

2) Found the jelly shop that Daddee Yah!'s daughter got her cake from.
VERY IMPRESSIVE....very expensive also.
They have a website :
Check out the designs AND the price!! But I do say it's an innovative idea. Very marketable.

3) Also got attracted to this little cart by the Christmas house in winter wonder land. They were selling the most cute looking cupcakes. I "blame" this attraction on Nigella and Msiamominny. This shop has a website too -
The cupcakes look really Nigella like and we all know how tempting that can get sometimes!! Don't think this is as marketable as the jelly concept though.

But good to know the "cake" (jelly is not a cake) industry is expanding. So are all our sweet-tooth friends' waistlines.

But ahhh.....what is life afterall if a "sweet-little-thing" does not tempt us ya!

Byt he way...hubby has seen a new camera that he likes....he is out now and I am wondering if he will come back with his new toy in hand!

Reckon my yearnings are cheaper than his!!!

Baby cries....and off I go AGAIN....

Friday, December 14, 2007

1 week short of 3 months !

Hubby says "Update boy boy's photo in your blog" !!

What hubby says, wife does (loh)!

So, to all you out there far far away who rely on my blog to see the development of my son, here's the latest!

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

To do or not to do...

My son is at that stage where he is thumb sucking. he does it everytime he is sleepy and sometimes when he wants his feed. Although when he is hungry, he tends to put his whole fist in instead of just his lil thumb.

My mum came down last weekend and commented that he wants a pacifier.

I have been very against pacifiers from the beginning partly due to my father's influence. Also I have heard it is not the best thing to give to a baby.

But now my concerns are as follows:
1) At the baby sitter, if no one will take the trouble to comfort him, at least he has his pacifier
2) Chances are his pacifier is cleaner than his hand/thumb
3) When he screams for his milk and no one can attend to him straight away, at least, he can suck on his pacifier first
4) Weaning off a pacifier is better/easier than weaning off a thumb!

1) If his pacifier drops on the floor and no one washes it but pops it back into his mouth....then???!!!!
2) WIll it be easier to wean off a pacifier than a thumb?

My dad has suggested we put mittens on his hand if we are not around to take his hand away from him (coz babies will not like the mitten taste). But I am not sure if that is do-able in the baby-sitter's place.

I think I am close to giving in and getting him a pacifier. There are plenty in the market these days. And there is one from Pigeon specifically catered for their age (0-5 mths, and when they are teething etc.) Could be a marketing gimick!! But will it bring him more comfort especially at the baby sitter's?? Sigh...I think my anxiousness in sending him out in the world alone is making me want to give him something comfortable to take along!

At my wit's end....thinking and thinking

Friday, December 7, 2007

SHOPPING!!! was a good time indeed !!

At last we decided to go to Midvalley AND The Gardens! As soon as we parked and entered Midvalley, we saw FOS on our left!! Can feel hubby's legs gravitating towards the shops, we made a beeline for FOS.

Total Spent = RM 80 (approx.) - managed to strike off only ONE item from my shopping list!

Passed by JJ....aiyah....the aroma of Asam Laksa wafted through the air! Sigh...shall we eat ah??? ;) Hubby had the nasi lemak with rendang! NOT BAD leh!
Bought one Christmas present.

Passed by Baskin Robbins....saw this lady licking her green tea ice cream cone. Looks nice leh!! But don't want lah....want to SHOP first. Green tea ice cream not in my shopping list!

Passed one shirt that hubby might like. encouraged him to go look. My Xmas present to him can 'kau tim' (cantonese for 'be completed') then! hehehehe...

OK OK....better head to The Gardens now before it gets too late!

On the way still, we passed by some books for sale. Children books actually costing about RM 30 each. Kids have it so good these days...the books are really interesting. But I think they are more to make the parents interested in them so that they can teach their kids. I presume kids don't really know the difference with whatever you use to teach them!

We also passed by Starbucks. Umm....never too full for coffee and never can resist the smell of coffee!! Tried their new mocha coffee. Too sweet, too milky, too much chocolate. Still think their iced latte is the better choice!

ALAS The Gardens.....Utterly Branded!

Walked thru Robinsons. Walked pass Coach. Didn't step into Isetan at all. Was looking at the touch-screen directory to see if Robinsons had a supermarket section. Saw that they only had Cold Storage so headed there.

Hubby and I both love browsing supermarket racks!

As you know Cold Storage has alot of Christmas-y food and imported biscuits and chocs. So we looked and looked and drooled and drooled. In the end, we ended up with the following - cost approx RM75:
1) Tip Top Boysenberry Ice Cream
2) Bulla Yogurt Ice Cream - mango flavour
3) Some Christmas biscuits
4) Macaroni and Cheese (hubby wanted to try)

We would have bought more if each had instigated the other. But sigh....
Though I could not help getting 2 tubs of ice cream. I don't see Tip Top now a days anywhere else. And Bulla Yogurt is also hard to come by. So, that has to be top priority to buy!

After 4 hours we headed home. We didn't cover all of Midvalley or The Gardens...due to ice cream purchase. And hubby also complained he didn't walk enough....due to ice cream purchase.

But what to do....wife wants ice cream. Wife wants to go home to try ice cream. Hehehe...maybe next weekend when my paretns are down again, we will walk a little bit longer and FINISH my Christmas shopping.

At the end of the day, over RM200 spent only two Christmas presents bought. Sigh....some 20 over more to go.

Decorations wise, I think 1 Utama's deco is nicer. Midvalley has less elaborate deco displays in the South Court and Centre Court. The Gardens is a pale comparison. Still new I guess, no budget yet!

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Planning my own time

It's the Christmas season again....time for gift buying and going back to my hometown and weekends full of Christmas gatherings!

There are only so many weekends before Christmas and gatherings are starting as soon as December hits us all! (if all our friends knew all our other friends, we can all only have ONE BIG one, no?)

So, anyway...I have a baby now.

And that literally puts everything into a NEW persepctive.

Gift buying is a PLAN and RUSH now. I think of each person late at night (when the baby is sleeping) and write down a few items I think they would like. Then I go to the shopping complexes as early as I can and only visit required shops!! No more browsing and thinking and rethinking if I should get this or that!

Going back to my hometown requires the car seat to be set up in the car. Boy boy is getting toooo heavy for me to carry even for a short distance, what more some 2 and a half hours drive! And I have to plan his clothing and diapers and what not. Kinda used to this now since I was travelling back and fro many a times during my confinement. Bought a storage box and dumped everything in!!!

Christmas Gatherings are more exciting with the baby around! Exciting for the guests...not for me!!! I will be the anxious freak...and the not so well kept one too!!! wytalks says, when we have kids, the baby looks good and the mummy looks terrible! After all if we carry them, they cover half our body anyway! :)

My parents will be down for a few days. Thus I will be able to have some time to myself and go out maybe for more than 2 hours! Thinking of visiting all the new shopping complexes!!! That reminds me...have to go visit simontalks post now about the new shopping complexes. For the life of me, I cant remember their names!! Sigh.....

Monday, December 3, 2007

To smack or not to smack

It's funny that the word SMACK has been used instead of SPANK. I think spanking sounds somewhat more painful than smacking!

Anyway, I am reading a book concerning this issue now - The New Dare to Discipline written by Dr. James Dobson (from Focus on the Family).

And he is in opinion that smacking (in fact, spanking) is acceptable means of disciplining children.

Of course there are boundaries to when a child should be smacked! Basically they should only be smacked when there is willful disobedience. For example when a child yells at you "Shut up!" or "Go to hell!" or when you tell the child not to go out and he does so the THIRD time in succession!

And after a smack, most children would cry and want to be comforted. This is the opportunity to talk heart to heart with the child - tell him what he did wrong and what he can do in future to avoid this again! I guess this is when the reasoning with the child comes in!

If we do this while the child is young, we could have less trouble when they are teenagers!

I have yet to finish this book. I don't know if reasoning alone without the smacking will actually work!

Children always test the boundaries we set for them. Will reason alone without "pain" keep them within the boundaries? Especially at the young age?

So, I think I will smack my lil one. Hopefully I would have learnt how to make him feel that it is done out of love. And I will ONLY do it under willful disobedience circumstances. And of course, not to the degree of causing scaring (less I be hauled to jail)!

I don't think you can have ONE rule of the thumb of disciplining for ALL occasions! Apart from willful disobedience, I presume that reasoning is the best course of action.

I will not tag anyone .... but please let me know if you write about it!

Thursday, November 29, 2007

All about SOUP

Which soup is the GREATEST soup?

Hahaha.....funny post this is. But I reckon ABC Soup!

All hearty goodness with soft carrots and potatoes and tomatoes and onions and tender amlost falling off the bone chicken!

I think every one must have had this soup before, no?

It's one thing from my past, I hope to carry on to the next generation. So, betcha lil Christopher is going to get loads of this!

Maybe I will cook this when the weather gets rainy and then lil one will forever think fondly of this soup as comfort soup.

To me....ABC soup is the BEST of all soups! Whatcha say?

Sunday, November 25, 2007

First birthday

There are many firsts in this...

1) The birthday girl is celebrating her first year birthday!
2) This is the first time I am going to a child's birthday party!
3) This is the first time I brought my son to a birthday party!
4) This is the first time I am totally BUSY and not just sitting around talking and eating!
5) This is the first time I am eating the BEST coleslaw EVER!

My son is the youngest in the crowd! He is the only baby still lying on his back while every other kid is already sitting up, crawling, clapping hands, holding their own bottles, eating porridge, drinking 7-8 ounces of milk in one sitting...etc.

Hubby said to our boy "Betta catch up, son!"

Yes, he has indeed many milestones more to achieve.

Looking at all the other kids, I feel my little one is so vulnerable. He was lying on the mat initially but I had to rescue him in case any of the kids accidently "trod" on him! And while all others were playing with all the toys, all he wanted to do was sleep!

And then I start to give thanks.....

That all he wants to do is sleep
That he still hasn't learnt how to crawl yet
That he is still is content to lie in my arms
That I have Simon and wy (whose kids are already big) to help me take care of my son

Cherish every moment, every smile, every sleeping hour...for tender moments are but fleeting!

The other kids...........................and my son


My poor son! He screamed until his face turned red and until no more sound could be emmitted from his voice box. That was the extent of the pain!

The same thing happened previously actually...when he got his 2nd dose of Hep B after his Fullmoon and when he had to take blood to test for his jaundice.

And I think he has learned this new way of crying.

He now cries this way as well at home IF I don't attend to his demand for milk ASAP!
(Luckily it only happens when he wants milk!)

He has become quite a demanding little one. I guess it is that age, ya? Perhaps they will outgrow it?

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

The number 38!

1. Name one person who made you laugh last night.
Cheah Kit, an old friend - who recently became a Christian and is planning to propose to his girlfriend next month!

2. What were you doing at 0800?
Feeding the baby

3. What were you doing 30 minutes ago?
Watching "Midsummer's Night Dream" (there was nothing else worth watching on Astro!)

4. What happened to you in 2006?
PLENTY! Got married, got pregnant

5. What was the last thing you said out loud?
"Oi oi loh" to the baby language (cantonese meaning "sleep loh")

6. How many beverages did you have today?
Since 7 am till now 12 pm - White Coffee and soya bean

7. What color is your hairbrush?

8. What was the last thing you paid for?
Opppsss...haven't been out in a I think it would be lunch on Sunday afternoon!

9. Where were you last night?
With a baby, there isn't anywhere I CAN go!

10. What color is your front door?

11. Where do you keep your change?
In a little blue coin pouch - my change and hubby's change as well

12. What’s the weather like today?
Relatively cloudy! Looks like rain in the evening!

13. What’s the best ice-cream flavor?
Depends on my mood actually. But most of the time, I love MINT

14. What excites you?
A good conversation

15. Do you want to cut your hair?
YES. Anything to get out of the house and have some resemblance of life before baby poo, baby bottles, baby language, baby cries....etc.

16. Are you over the age of 25?
Gladly "Yes".

17. Do you talk a lot?
Ummm.....sometimes I do, sometimes I don't

18. Do you watch the O.C.?
Opppsss....sometimes lah. Like a little drama in my life sometimes

19. Do you know anyone named Steven?
Well....his name was spelled Stephen (if that counts)

20. Do you make up your own words?
In baby language????

21. Are you a jealous person?

22. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter ‘A’.

23. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter ‘K’.
Let me check my phone directory.....ohhh...Kathie, my new blog friend!

24. Who’s the first person on your received call list?
Hubby's office number

25. What does the last text message you received say?
"Now have to earn more money and save for family!" - from another working mum!

26. Do you chew on your straw?
Only when I am bored with the company I am in.

27. Do you have curly hair?

28. Where’s the next place you’re going to? to stock up on diapers, baby wipes, shampoo, eggs, garlic...hehehe...that is as far as I can think of right now!

29. Who’s the rudest person in your life?
Can't think of any actually! Waste of brain power!

30. What was the last thing you ate?
CHOCOLATE...Rose Chocolate to be specific with orange flavoured filling!

31. Will you get married in the future?

32. What’s the best movie you’ve seen in the past 2 weeks?
On Astro....The Triumph (I guess that is also called a movie right?)

33. Is there anyone you like right now?
I like everyone.

34. When was the last time you did the dishes?
2 hours ago!

35. Are you currently depressed?
No....coz baby doesn't allow me to.

36. Did you cry today?
No...coz baby doesn't allow me to.

37. Why did you answer and post this?
Hahaha...because I have nothing else to write about with BABY around and me stuck at home!

38. Tag 5 people who would do this survey.
Ummm.....let's see....
wy talks
pony tales
daddee yah

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Something about the lyrics....

I know I may get some "WHAT!!!" comments by saying this...but I actually love watching the show Grey's Anatomy. It's all about the romance, I gotta admit...since they don't really show much about the saving lives part (unlike ER).

Perhaps it is not all about the romance, it is also all about life. I admit I love to analyse (over-analyse, hubby thinks) emotions, our pyschological makeup etc.

So, why did I bring this up? Mainly becuase I have been seeing the song clip (if that is what t is called) of the closing of the previous season and I didn't like the song. The singer really just mumbles some mumbo-jumbo and the tune is all dull.

BUT...I loved the little scenes that were shown together with the clip. So, decided to YouTube it and search for the lyrics as well. AND surprisingly.....the lyrics are really meaningful.

I still hate the tune though...

"How To Save A Life" (The Fray)

Step one you say we need to talk
He walks you say sit down it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
And you begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Let him know that you know best
Cause after all you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And pray to God he hears you

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

It's REALLY all about LIFE in the end.....

Monday, November 12, 2007

Being "mummy" and "daddy"

It is a fact of life that once anyone becomes a parent, they are refered to as "daddy" or "mummy" instead of any endearing names previously rendered after marriage!

Perhaps it is that the title "mummy" and "daddy" holds greater weight than perhaps any "dear" or "darling" will ever carry. Or perhaps it is the first effort to teach the baby the word mummy and daddy. It is, after all, recommended in any child teaching books to constantly refer to each other as mummy and daddy instead of using names or any other terms. And the term just gets stuck on even though the baby is not around!

I found this "name-calling" an easy change actually. But I come to realise that it is not just the names calling that needs to change. TALK after all is the easy part.

The hard part is the action that comes with it!

When you are no longer just a wife, you become a mother.
You are in a family, not in a two-some relationship.

When everything you do you have to consider the child first.
When you are no longer first, but second.

For people (like me) who require "some" attention (haha....not the best thing to admit), it can get quite hard taking in this change in ACTION.

But like in all things, there is a middle path, I guess. Where the road between husband and wife remains strong. And a third flyover is build on top of this road for the child.

Hopefully in the attempt to build the flyover, we road builders do not neglect to maintain the original road. Or we concentrate so much on beautifying the flyover, the original road is a pale comparison to the flyover.

Life is frequently about lessons, isn't it. About changes and adjusting. About communication and working things out.

Did parenthood hit you as "hard" as it hit me?

One morning's thought, one rambling moment.....

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Old movies' theme songs

One of those was sleeping so managed to relax a little, make myself my first cuppa (after 10 months!!!) and turned on Astro.

Cheers was on.

Not much of a fan of Cheers actually. But what struck me (must be one of those melancholic mornings), was that the theme song was actually very meaningful.

I knew this all the while, but never really gave a thought to it. And came to realise that there were some sitcoms during my early years whose theme song (as well as the show itself) had pretty meaningful words!

(Was also thinking, these were some short songs I could sing to Christopher!)

So, here is the "Cheers!" song...with lyrics

Where Everybody Knows Your Name (by Gary Portnoy and Judy Hart Angelo)

Making your way in the world today takes everything you've got.
Taking a break from all your worries, sure would help a lot.

Wouldn't you like to get away?

Sometimes you want to go

Where everybody knows your name,
and they're always glad you came.
You wanna be where you can see,
our troubles are all the same
You wanna be where everybody knows
Your name.

You wanna go where people know,
people are all the same,
You wanna go where everybody knows
your name.

And another I used to remember was "Facts of Life"

And there is "Full House"

Another favourite of mine..."Who's The Boss"

Brand New Life (by Larry Carlton, Robert Craft, Martin Cohan and Blake Hunter)

There’s more to life that what you're living.
You take a chance and face the wind.
An open road and a road that’s hidden
A brand new life around the bend.

There were times when I lost a dream or two.
Found the trail, and at the end was you.
There’s a path you take and a path untaken
The choice is up to you my friend.

Nights are long but you’re on your way
To a brand new life,
Brand new life,
Brand new life around the bend.

And so many more.....Growing Pains, Family Ties, Life Goes On, Perfect Strangers etc.

Ahh....those were the days!

The only current one I remember now that has quite a nice theme song is "Friends"!

Friday, November 2, 2007

First Qualified Opportunity

I always loved writing.

I love the play of words and always marvel at how words can evoke so many myriads of feelings and emotions. Every story that I wrote had to have a good ending. A good ending is what will remain in a reader’s mind longer than any part of the story.

But frankly all that I wrote was chucked aside and forgotten. After all, seldom do we write something and show it around for people to read…. except in school when we had to write essays and pass them up for correction!

But now we have blogs - Enormous areas for us in cyberspace to pen our thoughts and perhaps share them with fellow bloggers. There is no direct coercion for anyone to read your postings but a subtle invitation. And sometimes subtleness works better than an obligatory reading.

Then I graduated a step further…thanks to my other blogger partners. I found that not only do I not need to make anyone obligated to read anything that I write. But I can actually get paid to write with PayPerPost (fondly called as PPP).

Would getting paid to write take the joy out of writing? After all that is what “jobs” always do to us! I am not sure yet at this moment. But I must say it did not take me very long to write this excerpt.

Perhaps it is really the writing that I love….but the money that comes with it is indeed an added bonus. And I would be able perhaps to go on my dream holiday to Europe after a few years of writing for PPP.

After all writing can never be a job, can it?

I always loved writing…..

word of mouth ethics

Thursday, November 1, 2007

Desktop Tag

Ahhh...back in KL for a small break!

(More like to do my errands, go for all my health and dental appointments and clean the house for baby to come back permanently)

So....catching up with some tags! First one....the desktop tag. So...this is it!!! Created by hubby!

It is not my son's best pose. But it is cute never-the-less.

AND....his photo is now on my phone and hubby's phone wall paper as well! hahahaha....

Thursday, October 25, 2007

What is in a name?

Choosing a name for your new born baby is really a big deal!

Problem 1
If the parents choose a name that either grandparents do not like, that takes out half the joy. It will be so hard for the I-don't-like-his-name grandparents to coo over a baby whose name they don't like to say!

Problem 2
If I were to call him in church, how many other boys will turn and answer me?

Problem 3
Will any silly Tom, Dick or Harry make fun of his name?

Problem 4
Does it numerically fit the requiremnts (some grandparents believe in numerology) ?

Problem 5
What does it mean biblically or otherwise?

Problem 6
Does the total number of alphabets equal 30 and below? (My mum cautioned me over and over that SPM and STPM boxes for names are limited to 30!)

Problem 7
Can you live with the short form some might "brand" your child with?
(Frankly, I wish no one will call my lil one Chris! hint...hint)

Problem 8
Any probability that his name may be mis-pronounced? (I don't understand how my "Ann" can be pronounced as "arn"....guess they are 'bahasa-paku-ing' it or it is just some Chinese tongue twister!)

At the top of my head, and through experience, these were my thought in choosing my son's name.

So the question I would like to ask all readers.

Would you mind if another child whose parents you are somewhat close to calls their child by the same name?

Cos I know several names that I really like whose child already bears that name....and if that person reads this and replies and says they don't mind....hehehe.....

First of many firsts

I bet all first time parents somehow try to jog their lil one's first somewhere in their memory bank...

My memory ain't that good these days (I remember where I put baby's stuff but can't remember where I stuffed my toothbrush!!!) thank God for blogs.

There were a few firsts these pass few days....

1) Baby's first "bday" - one month old celebration.
Turned out pretty good. Had my mum watch him while I went out to socialise. So, there was no real harm of him being passed from one eager aunty to another eager uncle!!!
Everyone showered him with oohhhs and ahhhs and plenty of gifts! (He loves all the toys...ummm....actually mummy loves all the toys!) Kids are so blessed these days, aren't they!

2) First pediatrician checkup
Thank God for a good pediatrician. The way she handles the baby gave me lots of confidence. And (the most important thing) she gave me her handphone number AND we can call her at night if there is anything urgent!

3) First time in his new baby cot and in our condo
Ahhhh....he didn't like it in his cot the first night. Too used sleeping next to me on the double bed back in Ipoh. Guess suddenly he felt all alone in a cage! But subsequently he was fine! Baby's adjust. other significant firsts have happened. It is still early yet. Many more firsts to come. I reckon the seconds will be as equally trilling for the first child. Pity the second child.....

Saturday, October 13, 2007

For me to remember by....

It has indeed been a long time since I added an entry to my blog. Reason being in between baby's demands, I have mum to talk to and Chinese soap operas to watch!

Since my last entry, Christopher's umbilical cord has dropped. It happened after 19 long days. The final 3 days before it dropped was even longer and much filled with prayer as it was hanging by (literally) a thread of skin! But alas when it did come off the belly button was clean and nice! No yucky smell or blood or anything at all.....

Also since his umbilical cord dropped, I now dare to carry him against myself. This helps alot coz most evenings his cries are quite unconsolable except if his tummy is pressed against me (thank God for some post natal fat)! Guess he needs to keep his lil tummy warm! But some evenings it can get quite nerve-wrecking!

Also I learnt that my lil one is too used to quietness. Since he came to stay, grandma's place has been really quiet. The volume on the TV is at 4-5 bars - which means we just "watch" TV.....literally! And it has always just been the 3 of us with daddy occassionally coming home and having himself shushed by me or my parents half the time! So, this weekend when he received many visitors, he got really worked up.

Sigh.....really worried about the full-moon evening now when there would be about 60 people goo-gaa-ing over him! I think I will be like an eagle pecking at everyone who goes to close to him or like a mother hen clucking over him incessently!

My little one....

I try to do the best for him. But sometimes....just sometimes it seems nothing I do is good enough. It's a scary adventure, a tiring journey but in the still of the night, when he looks at you with his deep black eyes after a nice warm bottle, the adventurous journey seems all worth its while.

I cry....and I laugh.....and I pray like I have never prayed before.

Monday, October 1, 2007

Baby Photos

Baby Christopher when he was 2 days old - in daddy's arms...

6 days old and he is already contemplating something while he is sleeping !!!

Staring intently at daddy while he takes the photo ..... still 6 days old

14 days old and starting to fill up ??? You think ?

He has his own look think?? You think ??

Hahaha.....he knows "kong kong" is telling him tall tales !!! (I told him so one night)

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

One week old

It took me one week before I could adjust and finally place a post about my lil' one.

He was born exactly one week from today.

Since then, he has travelled from Kuala Lumpur, Subang Jaya Medical Centre to the home of my parents home in Ipoh, some 200 km away.

I can't say at this point if I am coping well. There are eager hands to take care of lil' Christopher and I have not been left alone long with him.

Nights are mine for the taking though....and even though sleepy as I may be, I relish my time alone with me son.

MY SON.....

It is good at the end of the day (or in the early hours of the morning) to be able to say that to myself and to him....

MY SON.....

Current characteristics
Requires a high level of cleanliness
Does not cry until he has finished poo-pooing
2 hour to 3 hour feed necessary (coz mummy hasn't increased his milk to 3 ounces yet)
Alert moments - 7 am, 1 pm and 11 pm (or thereabout)
Likes to look around (when he is alert)
Learning to frown when he is disturbed ( mummy)

MY SON......

He has shown me that the capacity of the heart to love is never ending......

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Anniversary lessons

Finally my little post-wedding project is almost done.

Basically its a mesh of all the photos taken during the ceremony, cropped, angled, cut and pasted into 4 A4 documents, joined together and framed.

Just need to get some thick black paper for the borders and it would be ready to be displayed!

I love my little home projects. An outlet for my creative side to grow. And it usually does come out cheaper in the end. And hubby indulges in my home projects...taking me to shops to buy all my creative stuff. And also giving me inputs when I can't decide. He is just great!

Anyway, we were both on all fours peering at the nearly completed frame and reminiscing on the event that happened nearly one year ago. And we couldn't believe actually that nearly one year has passed. We would be celerating our one year anniversary soon.

And we also realised that our lil one's estimated due date would fall exactly on our anniversary as well. And oh....very quickly.....I jumped at the opportunity to tell hubby that the baby would be my anniversary gift to him! he is worried what to get me in return that would be just as meaningful!

But now that one year has passed, I kind of want to take stock of what one year of marriage has done to me.

Communication has developed to a new scale for me. I no longer struggle internally to push away any negative feelings or unhappiness or dis-satisfaction that I feel. I just say them outloud to hubby and we move on from there. It really feels like a weight off my heart as soon as I talk about it. Maybe in so doing I have even gained a few years of life !

Learning about communication also helps to a certain extent in the managing expectations bit about and from my hubby. When my marriage counsellor's wife told me never to expect your husband to know what you are thinking (even after so many years of marriage), I never really understood how important this lesson was.

Sometimes I feel with expectations, we have to know the "potential" of our husbands - in other words how much they understand about what we expect out of them - at their current stage and limit our expectations. Then work and communicate as a couple from where we are, agree together as to where we want to be and encourage (remind myself - no nagging) each other towards the agreed destination.

I also learned firsthand the concept of the servanthood attitude. Something as simple as ironing was once a source of my own resentment a few months into our marriage (maybe coz I am an early riser and do most of the ironing while hubby is still snoring away). But now, although I can't say it is a joy, I am using the time to talk to God about my husband and to pray for him.

(Also I must say that hubby does help out alot around the house once he is up.)

So, that's year one lessons for me. Prayerfully marriage as the years go by will be of more lessons and of more understanding of each other as a couple (then as a family).

First lesson as a mummy - practice praising the good in people's actions and achievements rather than harping on the bad/pouring cold water on their achievements. Reckon this applies as a lesson for a wife too!

Sunday, September 9, 2007

Normal Pregnancy II

4 slices of cheese,onion,ham, pepper bread
1 cup chocolate milk
2 pisang emas
1 tangerine

All consumed within 1 and a half hours .....

And I am still hungry (just a little bit) .....

Aaaahhhhh......tommorrow checkup......what to do? what to do?

If don't eat, lil one kicks to high heaven!

Maybe with all the fat he is putting on (me and himself), he will come out reckon?

Thursday, September 6, 2007

Normal Pregnancy

Sigh....I am having a normal pregnancy at last.

Had to experience all the same things everyone else was experiencing - swollen feet !

I have been lucky so far right up to my 36th mid feet remained the same size. Then suddenly on Wednesday night, 2 days into my 37th week, *poof* my right feet began to feel tender and numb!

You can bet I made such a racket about the whole thing and made hubby massage my legs so that the numbness (and I was hoping all that water retention too) will go away ! So, woke up the next morning and lo and legs decided to stay the same way - all swollen and tender and numb!

"No more cooking, ironing, 1U at 3 pm on Sunday for me", I kinda hinted to hubby! But now I feel so helpless and irritated coz all I can really do is sit down with my feet UP!

Then one irrational evening, I decided to weigh myself. Everyone who goes to the same gynae as I do knows how "obsessed" he can be about his patients' weight. So, when I looked down at the weighing scale and saw that I have put on 2 kg this pass week and a half, I made another racket !!

(Poor hubby....getting shocked out of his skin very often lately)

"What to do now?? How??? Sure doctor scold wan!"
Hubby had a earful of such remarks!

So....normal pregnancy??
I guess I am going through it fully now - swollen feet and "excessive" weight gain!!! many more days to go you think??

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

First September entry

It's September at last - THE month ! Expecting something to happen anytime....

I wonder when October comes, would I be able to welcome the month with as much enthusiasm. Bet I wouldn't even be able to greet the new month with much of an entry in my blog except a short Hi and's born story....

The last weekend of August was good though. Most folks took the opportunity to go back to their hometowns and 1U had parking at 3 pm on Sunday ! haha....

Managed to do some last minute shopping, visiited a few friends and chomped round town as well....hoping all the chomping will get baby to be excited to come out!

Discovered the following this merdeka weekend:

1) Hubby misses shopping a great deal. I think I am one of those "lucky" woman who married a guy who actually enjoys shopping (window or within). In his quest to look for this shirt he loved so much in FOS Ikano, he could actually think of and visit all other FOS outlets to see if they have his size. Unfortunately..... and this leads me up to #2!

2) I think our kid will be spoiled by shopper-daddy...he is being spoiled while in my tummy already coz daddy spends as much time in the toy section as he does in his shirt section!

3) When I need to pee, I NEED to "wait-ah...give me a few minutes" deal !

4) When I am tired, I am little while longer kinda thing anymore. And at that stage I am already actually wishing I could fit into the trolley or that I have a wheelchair to take me to the car !

5) I think all the clothes we have bought so far for lil one is too big! Met a friend with her 5 mth old baby girl and it looks like most of the clothes we bought will fit her instead! poor new born baby will be swimming in his clothing! (Daddy grinned....can go shopping again!)

6) When did "dear" become "daddy" instead ???!!! Maybe it sounds promoted....more responsibility after all comes with the promotion from hubby to daddy.

7) Merdeka parade?? Oh....I didn't see that (didn't even think of it actually!) I only knew that 1U had parking at 3 pm on Sunday. Sigh....what a good citizen I am, preoccupied with establishing Msia's economy!

8) ummm.....can't think of anything more....except that I have one m ore week of going to office before I get to start my work from home arrangement and then finally my maternity leave. was a good 3-day Merdeka spirit for me.....just long weekend shoppping catch-up.

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Illness Strikes

Down with sorethroat, cough and flu and more worried about my lil one than anything else !

Reading up on the internet on the effects of these illnesses to my fetus and the results are horrifying ! So, better stop reading else will be overcome with fear more that faith !

All I can do is pray that my lil one will be ok. After all with God EVERYTHING is possible.

Used to be before I had this baby that even though I was sick, I always pushed my body and mind to the limit. Didn't take Medical Leave all that often. In fact my boss in my current workplace had to order me to go home instead of me begging to take off. And it was only my first day at work!

Maybe it was our upbringing that caused us to be like that ! Remember daddy drumming into our ears "if you do not think you are sick, you will not be sick!" In other words, don't act sick !!! No pampering excessively!

But now I am surprised at myself. When did responsibility to my lil one superceed responsibility to work ! Not saying that I stop being responsible at work, but I don't put my work first anymore. Nor anything else (except God) for that matter.

Perhaps this is what becoming a mother is really like...and being a child of God. You see yourself only as an interceeder, the channel through which God will use to touch your child. In providing strength and love and wisdom to my lil one, I draw from God. And sacrifice is a word that is actually very fact it is not a sacrifice at all, it is just about giving.

I hope this kind of simple feelings will never be overwhelmed by naughtiness or talking back at a later stage! :)

But for now, dear Lord, in between my coughs and sneezes, please take care of my lil one!

Monday, August 20, 2007

My New House

Went to see my new house (still work in progress) last weekend. Pretty impressive coz the walls are all plastered now. So, hubby stopped the car and went in to have a look! (Guess it was safe enough to walk in now!) but since I was pregnant I had to stay in the car and peer left and right!

It looked rather short I have to say. I could see the backyard wall from the car !!!

The staircase is spiral to save space - so my little storeroom under the stairs must be really tiny! And hubby says the door to the storeroom is midget high! No way his tall frame will even go through it then! Sigh.....thinking all the cleaning and digging for stuff has to be done by me then!

But upstairs should be rather large we think.... hubby didn't go up to check it out! Next time round when we bring the camera, he says he will go up coz my peering is only eye level !!! And I am dying to have a feel (through hubby) of my master bedroom. See if my dream of a walk-in wardrobe is still possible!

We only have 2 bedrooms upstairs with a family room...compared to downstairs comprising the living room, dining, kitchen, wet kitchen, one bedroom and one bathroom. Looks like there is nothing much I can do with the place. We will most probably be living Ikea style...the compact part of Ikea's style at least!

But it will be some 2 years before we get to work on the draining out again! But thankfully then we will have baby's expenses more or less accounted for.

All in God's timing, things work out perfectly !

Monday, August 13, 2007

"Mun Cheong Fan"

Went back to my hometown Ipoh last weekend. Mummy and daddy were so excited....coz NOW we can go to Tuck Kee and try the famous "Mun Cheong Fan". Mummy in her last wedding dinner(which was in KL) found out that some KL-ites actually go to Ipoh specially to eat this rice dish!

So, granting her wish, hubby, sis and I made our eating expedition back home.

Service was really bad that day....only could eat after 30-45 minutes!!! I guess coz they had to cook the rice and it took that long to cook! (Must be growing a special strain of rice and catchng a special chicken in as well!)

Oh yeah....the whole Mun Cheong package came with one whole chicken and some condiments as well. it is

This is the rice. (Duh!)

When the waiter first took it out and opened the lid, we all looked inside expecting some "miracle" of a dish. But all we saw was white rice. So, daddy asked him to mix it up.

He looked at us like we were talking nonsense. And then we realised why. THERE WAS NOTHING UNDERNEATH all that white rice but MORE white rice!

But truth be told....the rice was really nice on its own (or maybe I was just hungry!). It was nicely cooked with hint of ginger, garlic and sesame oil (I think). Quite worth the wait....

We had to wait another 10 minutes (actually I think it was longer than that...but shall not spoil their name any further....mummy says it is usually not that bad!) for the chicken.

It's actually "kampung" chicken ...steamed ! Nothing else needs to be said.

Apologies for the messiness.....we had vultures at our table!

And finally the condiments...... the tomatoes, cucumber and a ginger sauce.

The ginger sauce you have to ask for it actually. (Mummy is an expert in all the sauces they provide there!)

So...was it worth the trip and the wait ?

All I can say least I have tried it !

Sunday, August 12, 2007

Baby Turns

Yet another milestone...or so I thought!

Baby has turned. I was so happy when the gynae told me coz I have been askiing my lil one to turn since my last gynae visit.

But gynae said it so much as a matter of fact. He even said I would be in trouble if the baby has not turned by now!

So, euphoria was a little marred down.

Guess it's not really an extraordinary event! Nor was lil one being a good kid and turning due to my request (constant nagging actually) !

It's just an expected, matter-of-fact event.

Sigh....sometimes gynaes can take all the fun out of milestones (I shall still consider it one)!

Tuesday, August 7, 2007

No longer baby movements

Went to the bathroom, was about to lock the door when I looked down and couldn't see my entire feet!

I have always been dreading this day...THE DAY when my feet would disappear under me! And it is here alas!

But thankfully....I realised later that I couldn't see my feet coz I had to manouveur my body a bit to get the bathroom door closed. So, when I stand straight, I actually STILL CAN see my entire feet! THANK GOD! lil one is not so lil anymore. Since the last week of my 7th month and now in the 1st week of my 8th month, I feel he is making LARGE WAVES inside of me. They are not funny and amazing anymore. They are more life ouch and ooohhh!

Only a few weeks back, this incident happened.
I was in snoozy land when suddenly I jumped out of bed coz I thought my sister was tapping me to wake up to go to work! When I was up, I looked around and the door was still closed. Only then did I realise that the 'taps' were actually internal and not external. My lil one was stretching just a little bit, I presume.
So, I happily went back to snoozy land to catch a few more hundred winks before my alarm clock rang.

However, now, tidal waves and count-down boxing moves from within do not allow me to get back to snoozy-land so quickly....if I get to at all!

My kid is not even born yet and I am feeling tired already! *yawn*....*yawn* What's next?

My Sister's Keeper

IRONY at its best is so well depicted in this book.

That death at the end of the day (or book) makes all the years (chapters) of heartaches, yelling, hurt and sadness seem so ridiculous.

The basic plot is about Anna who was conceived by in vitro fertilization so that she would be a genetic match for her older sister Kate, who was diagnosed with acute promyelocytic leukemia when she was 2 years old. When Anna was born, her cord blood was donated to her sister, but when the leukemia returned she then had to donate blood and bone marrow. When Kate's kidneys fail Anna is expected to donate a kidney to save her sister, but she hires a lawyer to be medically emancipated from her parents and gain the right to make the decision for herself. Her lawyer, Campbell Alexander, works for her pro bono.

The ending of the book is a page turner coz we want to know how the case turns out. But there are more surprises in store which are more important than the verdict of the case. If you want to know the ending, please go to My Sister's Keeper at Wikipedia.

There were 2 things that was mentioned in the book which caught my attention though. (I am para-phrasing)
1) In the face of adversity, the human strength is like a bamboo. You do not know how much weight it can take until it is fully tested.
2) We can never outgrow our children as fast as they can outgrow us.

Think about it.....

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Are we part of the ‘vulnerable pocket’ of consumers?

I read an article this morning sent to me from Knowledge @ Wharton entitled “Robbing the Cradle? If Marketers Get Their Way, That Bundle of Joy can cost a Bundle.

As I was reading it, it occurred to me that it’s actually a very scary because it is VERY EASY for us as parents to fall into the whole scheme of things.

The scheme preys on the usual activities we do and how we think.
1) We want the best for our kids since we know that from birth till age two, a child’s brain develops most.
2) We are all shoppers one way or another – either weekends or online
3) We love our kids therefore we visit the children’s section
4) We are bombarded with marketing words like “genius”, “prodigy” etc.
5) We think: “I want to give my child the best” and “There is no harm in getting these videos and toys”
6) We buy and buy and buy…because we fall into the ‘vulnerable pocket’ of target consumers.

It is an easy trap to fall in, won’t you say?

There has been no real evidence that any of these educational toys really work. What they do actually is provide parents and children an opportunity to discover new things together (and these are only for the toys and not the videos). But there are many other things that we can use actually. All it takes is a little time, effort and creativity from us as parents.

But we are too tired at the end of the day to engage in creativity and still think about developmental activities for our kids to do. So, at the end of the day, we take the easy way out and buy and buy hoping that these toys will make up for what we are lacking.

There are several points made in this article that (sigh) my mum has been nagging me about as well.
1) No TV for children below age of 2.
2) Read, read, read

The love for books, according to my mum, must be cultivated at a very early age…OR ELSE !!!

This concept does not only apply to educational toys for our young, they apply to baby bottles, baby diapers and ALL things baby related.

When preparing for the birth of my child, I struggled against the peer pressure that only AVENT is good enough for your baby! (I am admittedly rebellious by nature) and now I also struggle against the notion that only MAMA POKO and HUGGIES (minimum standard being red) are good enough for your baby’s butt !

Sometimes I wonder if I am not a good mother unless I buy these brands. Many have told me that they are really good. And no doubt they are since they are after all the highest priced brands in the market and so they must have done some research into their product.

But I have come to peace with this matter (after 8 months of praying and struggling with this) in that different babies are different. And what may not work for my neighbour’s baby may work out SUPER DUPER fine for me.

Monday, July 30, 2007

zero eight zero eight two zero-s eight

This sequence of numbering will continue on for some time more.....7 July 2007, 8 August 2008, 9 September 2009!! Oooo....hope my son gets born on the 9 Sept 2007 then (hehehe....) then if I ever get tagged then at least I would have some concrete plans in mind!

Anyway....coming back to next year 8th of August...what do I intend to do?

Most probably I would have passed the day by without even realising it until later in the night. And most probably the only reason why I would have remembered it would be due to some Maxis sms gimick started by Maxis so that they get all prosperous on that day!

So, most probably what I would end up doing would be deleting all those sms and trying to spend the day more "normal-ly" than I possible can.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Marley and Me

I heard this quote yesterday and had to write it down...

"The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone."
-Harriet Beecher Stowe.

What relation does it have to this book??

When reading a book, it is the first few pages that determine if you borrow/buy the book. The next few chapters that determine how fast you finish the book. And the ending that defines your memory of the book.....usually.

The ending of this book talks about the death of the family dog - Marley. And so when I heard this quote, it corresponds well to add on to my remembrace of the book.

But a little about the beginning and the middle of the book first.....

This book can be said to potray the life of the author himself. It is a simple book with a simple storyline. About meeting a girl, marrying her, finding it tough to have kids, deciding to have a dog to determine if they can adjust into having a third party in the family....and thus Marley emerges.

It is filled with naughty antics, disobedience, near frustrations...all funny to a reader who loves dogs as well. And as a reader also expecting a baby, the joys of having a child and how the child relates to the dog is also very endearing.

Then the ending.....

The author comes to realise that the grief he feels from the death of his dog has impacted him more greatly than the grief of any person passing to date. Funny how dogs creep into the depths of our heart....unknown. But it is no wonder really when you think about it.....a dog's ability to continuously accept, forgive and still remain loyal is totally amazing.

Relating the death of his dog in an article (the author is a journalist) brought many sympathetic replies. In that short moment, a warm memory is established in the mind of his readers and emmitted out in a warm empathetic greeting. The death of a dog can bring such warmth and can even bring people from no where together.

Only a dog can do that, I reckon. In death their spirit of acceptance, forgiveness and loyalty once contained within their bodies now reside within the persons they loved so well - their owners! That is the depth of their soul ingrained.....

"Reality" Movies

I do not know exactly how it came about but my sister and I got a talking about shows like The Island and The Truman Show this morning.

I did not see The Island so my sister was telling me about the storyline. And it struck me as quite similar to the concept first introduced in The Truman Show.

Have you ever watched The Truman Show ?? It was a bite out of the blue in relation to cinema movies. A totally new, mind boggling concept. In fact I would say the only Jim Carrey movie that I would not mind watching again.

The show is basically about Carrey who finds his life being turned into a documentary without him even knowing about it. The town he lives in is a fake, the people around him are all actors and everything he eats for breakfast is actually a TV commercial. It is a struggle, really, to see him deal with all the emotional crisis and people that the “producers” throw into his “life”. When he realises that something is wrong with his life, he has to face his greatest fear – either fly or sail away - from this safe haven to find what is real in his life.

Reminds me of the little globe I loved as a kid – imagining all the people in the little town are real and alive and you are watching them!

The Truman Show is a show that I would recommend you to watch. If for nothing else but to be entertained!

And if “The Island” is somewhat like that as well, I can’t wait to get my hands on this movie.

Thursday, July 19, 2007

All Fours

Hubby told me I have been tagged by PonyTales

I am wondering now how you know you have been tagged unless you constantly read your links' blogs! Luckily I have someone checking for me as well on days when I am a little busy!

So, now that my work is done.....can sit and write about this!

Four jobs I have had in my life :

1) Telemarketing - did this after my Form 6 while waiting to go to university. Tough job. I started to count my salary by the number of minutes that passed. After a few hours of counting that way, I realised that I have to count only to the amount I earn after 15 minutes. Blocks of minutes less than that would make it TOTALLY NOT worthwhile for me to sit here in this corner. I had to go through each name in the phone directory, dial it (partly hoping no one will answer) and repeat the same phrase each time: "Hello aunty/uncle, I am calling from so-and-so Vacation Club etc..". If I am "lucky" I get to talk for a whileto someone nice. Else I will get a firm "NO....thank you". And if I am really unlucky I will get some #&%^@#^ !!! Sigh....

2) Finance Executive in HLA - Started of with a good boss. Then was seconded to a single-woman lady boss to implement a project. Glad I got to do the project, sad to loose my very nice fatherly male boss ! Though on hindsight I must say I became a sharper person and better person under her (will not elaborate else will be too lengthy)!

3) Finance Analyst in UN - Saw a bit of the world (geographically and politically) in this job. Found out certain things about UN I would otherwise have not known ! Not too appropriate to mention for fear of finding my blog corrupted with virus one day !

4) Senior Project Consultant in KE (a Sdn. Bhd.) - very flat hierarchy compared to all the other org. I have been at. Travelled a lot and very often. Decided once and for going to foreign countries for work is not exactly my cup of tea ! Foreign countires can only be enjoyed when you are on HOLIDAY with a loved one !

Four of my favourite foods:

This would be hard coz since my uni days untill the 6th mth of pregnancy, I hardly ate or enjoyed food. Hubby (then boyfriend) had a tough time understanding how someone can see someone else eat and not get hungry! But figured he can't force me to do anything and since then has given up on getting me to eat proper meals. It took a baby to get me to change ! But bcoz hubby(then bf) accepted and never forced me, I married him!!!! hehe....

Anyway...with baby on the way, this is what I have enjoyed eating and remember that I loved to eat before !

1) Siong tong lala (a slight tinge of spicy, hot soup laced with a little sweetness (kei chee's doing) added with the aroma of chinese wine)
2) Black Forest Cake - with lots of berries in between - NOT those artifically sweetened berries please !
3) Ice kacang - Melaka Mahktota Parade kind !
4) Agar-agar - NOT pudding (definite no-no!) but Jelly still kinda accepted !

Four Countries I have been to on vacation:

1) Perth, Australia
2) Singapore, Singapore
3) Hanoi, Vietnam
4) Bali, Indonesia

Four places I would rather be right now:

1) At home with my book
2) In a CLEAN swimming pool with hardly anyone in it!
3) On vacation in Prague
4) In the car (for lack of no other place)...coz that means I am going somewhere and not stuck in office !

Four friends to tag....(don't have so many friends to tag ! sob ! sob !)

1) Simon (again)
2) Kathie
3) Florence
4) Mott

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Thinking back, Moving forward

I went through some of my old family photos the other day. Flipped through album after album and noticed most of the pictures taken when I was young had me laughing candidly. If ever the pictures were posed, it would mainly be pictures of birthdays where I was still smiling but my eyes were seldom focused on the camera but on the cake or the fried chicken or the juicy watermelon!

And when I look at the photos I can remember so distinctively the feelings I had felt. The beach photos were the most abundant taken throughout my 7 years in Penang. Almost every Sunday morning, daddy would make the windy drive to the beach. Out of the car we would spill, running around selecting the shadiest and cleanest spot and out unfolds the poncho. Mummy would have packed up a picnic lunch and some fruits. Even remember there being curry chicken and Sunshine bread one of those times. Don’t remember if we were messy though or if mummy ever found it too tough cleaning up after us. Can’t be though coz I never recalled mummy ever scolding us at any of our outings at the beach.

Remember out little pails and spades. Taking water from the sea to make the castle more compact. Remember burying mummy’s legs under piles and piles of sand and laughing our little heads off when she wriggled her toes free !

Remember running down to the waves only to be chased back up again. And after a while finding the guts to stand at the edge of the water and allow our little toes to sink deeper and deeper at each break and pull of the waves along the shore !

Remember walking with daddy and seeing all the Pros at work creating their own sand castles. Maybe my love for architecture was developed at this early age by the beach.

Remember also one Sunday when it rained and we parked under the tree and ate our prepared lunch and watched the waves and the rain instead ! And daddy scolding me once when I threw sand in the air and it entered cher’s eye ! That was my first lesson in physics I reckon…Do not throw sand into the air if the wind will blow it in the direction of people sitting down! Learnt the concept of me standing is high and them sitting is low – DANGER !

Funny how all these photos bring back to me so many memories and lessons learnt. I realised that my daddy must have either loved taking photos, or we were great models or he understood the importance of capturing memories on film.

When we left Penang, the photos were less. I still remember having happy memories of my stays in Kuching, Kuantan, Ipoh and finally KL but they were somehow not the same. Perhaps I have grown and memories become clouded by duties and responsibilities and exams. They start to become classified as experiences more than memories! And there is a great distinction in that!

The camera is a beautiful thing. Burdensome or not in carrying it when we have diapers and feeding bottles and play things to lug along, we owe it to our children to help them retain these memories. Although I can still remember these childhood memories, it is those worn out photographs that trigger the whole effect. It invokes and breathes life into the imprints within the heart that would have been buried if not for the physical imprint that the eye registers.

I hope I can also fill my kids’ memory bank with happy events. Just like those beach outings equals happy childhood memories for me, what can I do for my kids that they can also carry with them well into their adulthood? Something that can perhaps even define the person he would become.

Waves that crash into the sand still play in my head
The rhythm of their beckoning
The whispers of their leaving
Sunsets so beautiful still I see beyond my eyes
No words can describe
The fiery hues and the clam blues
Then they intermingle

Everything else forgotten
They demand everything and yet ask for nothing
We take in and take in more
But we do not give anything back in return
Only silence is required
For beauty and sounds to reach the soul

It is memories like these that create the writer in me.
To my parents, I give all thanks – this is your greatest gift to me!

Monday, July 16, 2007

Baby Kiko warehouse sale

Heh folks ! Found this info on the AMN forum !

26 - 29 Jul 2007
10am - 5pm
1 Jalan Industri PBP 13Taman Industri Pusat Bandar Puchong47100 PuchongSelangor+603 8068 8888
RM1 - RM18 only
Amazing Babies

SG Retreat Baby Mania kicked again (Must be doing some sommer-saults inside) ! But aaahhhh..... came to realise the kicks "in" is easier to bear than the kicks "out" (i.e. when the lil' kickin naughty fella comes out) !

Thus my title.

It was supposed to be about SG Retreat actually but with 13 adults, 4 babies and 2 was more BABY MANIA than retreat ! Anyway....

Event : 1st SG Retreat with Living Fountaineers (to remind myself more than anything)
Date : July 7-9
Place : Malacca (stayed at Everly Hotel)

Give thanks to God
1) Everyone was more or less on time
2) No big frowns or squabbles
3) Weather was pretty good
4) Cheap rambutans !!!

Main Adult Observations
1) A certain someone can REALLY eat !
2) The meaning of how a high carb, low calorie diet is done !
3) How best to hold a baby and eat at the same time !
4) Continue to flex those muscles 3-4 years after baby is born !

Main Baby Observations
1) Wait 2/3 years or more before having a second kid !
2) Wait until baby can sit in the baby chair before bringing him out for meals !
2) Baby 1 and 4 require mummy/daddy to be in sight ! Baby 2 is relatively easy to handle but then again mummy/daddy are seldom far! Baby 3 is the easiest to handle but grabs, kicks and bangs!
3) Babies farts are satisfactory and can emit great vibrations!
4) Babies pee with no constrain
5) Kids require mummy's arm as pillow still at 3 years old

Funniest moments (though cruel)
1) A certain someone desperately looking for toilet !
2) A certain lil' baby peeing on un-suspecting mummy !

1) Tired but cannot sleep or no place to sit
2) Hungry but nothing to eat
3) Want to swim but cannot swim !

Thursday, July 12, 2007

How fast do babies grow?

Hubby bought some clothes for our lil' kid the last week he was in Beijing. Looks really cute and they were quite cheap - around RM 15 per top/bottom.

But kids grow up real fast these days. Some kids who are only 7-8 mths look like they are 1 year old ! I seriously wonder how many times my lil' boy will be able to wear these outfits before he outgrows them ! all mummies whom I promised I will show photos of the they are !

I especially love this top - it's so bright and cheerful !
After buying the top, the lady brought out this pants and persuaded and persuaded my hubby to buy it as well since it matches so well !!! Hmm.....I guess it does, doesn't it !

This one hubby bought I guess coz it's just cute !

Thinking of getting one for him as well then both father and son will look (some-sort) alike !

These are for Chinese New Year ...... 2009 !!! Provided he can still wear them then !
Else we were thinking of letting him wear it if there is an occasion in 2008 (a weddding/his bday/some other Chinese festival ?) !

If our lil' one has my body temperature, he will like this red outfit. Coz this outfit is rather thick.
If he takes after daddy, though, then I think he will be frowning and crying at us to take it off !

We'll just have to see !

Tuesday, July 10, 2007


I have been tagged !

( Though it took the tagger to tell me what it meant by that, first time being tagged and all ! Don't frown Simon, at least I am learning !!!!)

The topic of today : Would I prefer to be a Stay At Home Mum, Full Time Working Mum or Part Time Working Mum !

Anyway, without a doubt I would say I would LOVE to be a PTWM earning a FTWM's pay ! Is that possible you think? Need to find some good (being affordable but with high returns) investments and collect interest/dividend/rent! Then perhaps it would be possible to have such a combination.

Reason why I want to be a PTWM - the working part

1) If you don't get out there into the world, I fear I will drive my hubby nuts - either coz the whole day I have NOT been talking adult language and forgot how !
OR the whole day I have kept quiet so I continue to keep quiet when hubby comes home !
OR I have been too quiet the whole day and now need to get my xxxxxxxx number of words out which would most probably be nagging and nagging !

2) If I don't work, there will be no reason for me to buy nice clothes and nice handbags and nice shoes. There are so many weddings to attend or Sunday church best outfits I can buy !

3) MONEY will be scarce and everyone knows the repercussion of that !

Reasons why I want to be a PTWM - the home part

1) I do want to teach my kids myself as much as I can - especially in the early ages !

2) I want to see every new miracle first hand without the baby sitter telling me about it first or seeing it in a photo taken by the baby sitter !

3) I basically love my little new family and taking care of them ! (being newly married and now the excitement of having a baby)

Though I have heard many tell me that they were SOOO glad to get back to work after their confinement. Work was heaven compared to staying at home !

Maybe ask me in 10 years time (if it takes that long) or by January and I would give you an entirely new opinion. At this moment though, I still think my 7th Heaven lies at home.

Don't know how to tag someone else, so...anyone who can let me know, please do let me that Simon will not frown at me again ! :)

Though let me try and see if it works (I think it does !):
1. Florence Mother of one!
1. Philip father in a few weeks time
1. Michael's wife current SAHM

Here’s how it works:
1. So easy peasy, if you were given a choice, would you be a SAHM or FTWM? Just provide 3 darn good reasons.
2. Include your post link to the list below and Finally,
3. Tag another three parent

1. Immomsdaughter prefers to be a SAHM
2. Miche prefers to be a SAHM too.
3. SweetPea is happy being a PTWM
4. AllThingsPurple choose to be a WAHM
5. Dr. Bernard Chan is both Mom and Dad
6. 5xMom wants to be … both?
7. Samm ….?
8. Helen prefers to be a FTWM
9. Adrian is a WAHD and seriously lacking sleep
10. Mott is everything-can-parent!
11. Simon dreams of being a SAHD.
11. 2ann would like to combine PTWM with FTWM.

SAHD - Stay at Home Dad
WAHD - Work at Home Dad
(something like that, ok?)