It is a fact of life that once anyone becomes a parent, they are refered to as "daddy" or "mummy" instead of any endearing names previously rendered after marriage!
Perhaps it is that the title "mummy" and "daddy" holds greater weight than perhaps any "dear" or "darling" will ever carry. Or perhaps it is the first effort to teach the baby the word mummy and daddy. It is, after all, recommended in any child teaching books to constantly refer to each other as mummy and daddy instead of using names or any other terms. And the term just gets stuck on even though the baby is not around!
I found this "name-calling" an easy change actually. But I come to realise that it is not just the names calling that needs to change. TALK after all is the easy part.
The hard part is the action that comes with it!
When you are no longer just a wife, you become a mother.
You are in a family, not in a two-some relationship.
When everything you do you have to consider the child first.
When you are no longer first, but second.
For people (like me) who require "some" attention (haha....not the best thing to admit), it can get quite hard taking in this change in ACTION.
But like in all things, there is a middle path, I guess. Where the road between husband and wife remains strong. And a third flyover is build on top of this road for the child.
Hopefully in the attempt to build the flyover, we road builders do not neglect to maintain the original road. Or we concentrate so much on beautifying the flyover, the original road is a pale comparison to the flyover.
Life is frequently about lessons, isn't it. About changes and adjusting. About communication and working things out.
Did parenthood hit you as "hard" as it hit me?
One morning's thought, one rambling moment.....