Tuesday, September 25, 2007

One week old

It took me one week before I could adjust and finally place a post about my lil' one.

He was born exactly one week from today.

Since then, he has travelled from Kuala Lumpur, Subang Jaya Medical Centre to the home of my parents home in Ipoh, some 200 km away.

I can't say at this point if I am coping well. There are eager hands to take care of lil' Christopher and I have not been left alone long with him.

Nights are mine for the taking though....and even though sleepy as I may be, I relish my time alone with me son.

MY SON.....

It is good at the end of the day (or in the early hours of the morning) to be able to say that to myself and to him....

MY SON.....

Current characteristics
Requires a high level of cleanliness
Does not cry until he has finished poo-pooing
2 hour to 3 hour feed necessary (coz mummy hasn't increased his milk to 3 ounces yet)
Alert moments - 7 am, 1 pm and 11 pm (or thereabout)
Likes to look around (when he is alert)
Learning to frown when he is disturbed (opppsss....like mummy)

MY SON......

He has shown me that the capacity of the heart to love is never ending......

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Anniversary lessons

Finally my little post-wedding project is almost done.

Basically its a mesh of all the photos taken during the ceremony, cropped, angled, cut and pasted into 4 A4 documents, joined together and framed.

Just need to get some thick black paper for the borders and it would be ready to be displayed!

I love my little home projects. An outlet for my creative side to grow. And it usually does come out cheaper in the end. And hubby indulges in my home projects...taking me to shops to buy all my creative stuff. And also giving me inputs when I can't decide. He is just great!

Anyway, we were both on all fours peering at the nearly completed frame and reminiscing on the event that happened nearly one year ago. And we couldn't believe actually that nearly one year has passed. We would be celerating our one year anniversary soon.

And we also realised that our lil one's estimated due date would fall exactly on our anniversary as well. And oh....very quickly.....I jumped at the opportunity to tell hubby that the baby would be my anniversary gift to him! Hahaha....now he is worried what to get me in return that would be just as meaningful!

But now that one year has passed, I kind of want to take stock of what one year of marriage has done to me.

Communication has developed to a new scale for me. I no longer struggle internally to push away any negative feelings or unhappiness or dis-satisfaction that I feel. I just say them outloud to hubby and we move on from there. It really feels like a weight off my heart as soon as I talk about it. Maybe in so doing I have even gained a few years of life !

Learning about communication also helps to a certain extent in the managing expectations bit about and from my hubby. When my marriage counsellor's wife told me never to expect your husband to know what you are thinking (even after so many years of marriage), I never really understood how important this lesson was.

Sometimes I feel with expectations, we have to know the "potential" of our husbands - in other words how much they understand about what we expect out of them - at their current stage and limit our expectations. Then work and communicate as a couple from where we are, agree together as to where we want to be and encourage (remind myself - no nagging) each other towards the agreed destination.

I also learned firsthand the concept of the servanthood attitude. Something as simple as ironing was once a source of my own resentment a few months into our marriage (maybe coz I am an early riser and do most of the ironing while hubby is still snoring away). But now, although I can't say it is a joy, I am using the time to talk to God about my husband and to pray for him.

(Also I must say that hubby does help out alot around the house once he is up.)

So, that's year one lessons for me. Prayerfully marriage as the years go by will be of more lessons and of more understanding of each other as a couple (then as a family).

First lesson as a mummy - practice praising the good in people's actions and achievements rather than harping on the bad/pouring cold water on their achievements. Reckon this applies as a lesson for a wife too!

Sunday, September 9, 2007

Normal Pregnancy II

4 slices of cheese,onion,ham, pepper bread
1 cup chocolate milk
2 pisang emas
1 tangerine

All consumed within 1 and a half hours .....

And I am still hungry (just a little bit) .....

Aaaahhhhh......tommorrow checkup......what to do? what to do?

If don't eat, lil one kicks to high heaven!

Maybe with all the fat he is putting on (me and himself), he will come out faster...you reckon?

Thursday, September 6, 2007

Normal Pregnancy

Sigh....I am having a normal pregnancy at last.

Had to experience all the same things everyone else was experiencing - swollen feet !

I have been lucky so far right up to my 36th mid week....my feet remained the same size. Then suddenly on Wednesday night, 2 days into my 37th week, *poof* my right feet began to feel tender and numb!

You can bet I made such a racket about the whole thing and made hubby massage my legs so that the numbness (and I was hoping all that water retention too) will go away ! So, woke up the next morning and lo and behold....my legs decided to stay the same way - all swollen and tender and numb!

"No more cooking, ironing, 1U at 3 pm on Sunday for me", I kinda hinted to hubby! But now I feel so helpless and irritated coz all I can really do is sit down with my feet UP!

Then one irrational evening, I decided to weigh myself. Everyone who goes to the same gynae as I do knows how "obsessed" he can be about his patients' weight. So, when I looked down at the weighing scale and saw that I have put on 2 kg this pass week and a half, I made another racket !!

(Poor hubby....getting shocked out of his skin very often lately)

"What to do now?? How??? Sure doctor scold wan!"
Hubby had a earful of such remarks!

So....normal pregnancy??
I guess I am going through it fully now - swollen feet and "excessive" weight gain!!!

Aahhh.....how many more days to go you think??

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

First September entry

It's September at last - THE month ! Expecting something to happen anytime....

I wonder when October comes, would I be able to welcome the month with as much enthusiasm. Bet I wouldn't even be able to greet the new month with much of an entry in my blog except a short Hi and Bye...baby's born story....

The last weekend of August was good though. Most folks took the opportunity to go back to their hometowns and 1U had parking at 3 pm on Sunday ! haha....

Managed to do some last minute shopping, visiited a few friends and chomped round town as well....hoping all the chomping will get baby to be excited to come out!

Discovered the following this merdeka weekend:

1) Hubby misses shopping a great deal. I think I am one of those "lucky" woman who married a guy who actually enjoys shopping (window or within). In his quest to look for this shirt he loved so much in FOS Ikano, he could actually think of and visit all other FOS outlets to see if they have his size. Unfortunately..... and this leads me up to #2!

2) I think our kid will be spoiled by shopper-daddy...he is being spoiled while in my tummy already coz daddy spends as much time in the toy section as he does in his shirt section!

3) When I need to pee, I NEED to pee.....no "wait-ah...give me a few minutes" deal !

4) When I am tired, I am tired....no little while longer kinda thing anymore. And at that stage I am already actually wishing I could fit into the trolley or that I have a wheelchair to take me to the car !

5) I think all the clothes we have bought so far for lil one is too big! Met a friend with her 5 mth old baby girl and it looks like most of the clothes we bought will fit her instead! Oh...my poor new born baby will be swimming in his clothing! (Daddy grinned....can go shopping again!)

6) When did "dear" become "daddy" instead ???!!! Maybe it sounds promoted....more responsibility after all comes with the promotion from hubby to daddy.

7) Merdeka parade?? Oh....I didn't see that (didn't even think of it actually!) I only knew that 1U had parking at 3 pm on Sunday. Sigh....what a good citizen I am, preoccupied with establishing Msia's economy!

8) ummm.....can't think of anything more....except that I have one m ore week of going to office before I get to start my work from home arrangement and then finally my maternity leave.

So....it was a good 3-day weekend....no Merdeka spirit for me.....just long weekend shoppping catch-up.