Hahaha....this is not a food related topic! What I am refering to are children!
Many of my friends are at the age where they either just got married or just had their first child. Some blessed few are into their second or just have had their second (accidentally!!!).
This topic came to mind actually when my colleague (who just gave birth to her 2nd child) and I talked about the 100 days restrain (from being sexually active). Both our mothers warned us many a time to wait until the 100 days are up before any engaging is to be done. It makes sense actually since we do have to wait for some parts of our body to heal.
Personally, I am paranoid over the episotomy stiches!
But I think (after the conversation) that it is not the 100 days that is the concern. It is the months and months of 'no-no' after that. When intimacy still remains zilch coz your body feels too tired, baby takes up all your time or just 'no mood'!
There are forums (I google searched this as well!) discussing this issue!!! It is not a joking matter or an uncommon one! There are wifes who get turned off after giving birth as they remember clearly the pain when they were giving birth. Some just had their libido turned off since labour!
The act of sexual intimacy between husband and wife after all is one special thing (and I think the main thing) that draws the couple closer together. I presume God never intended sex only to be performed for the sole purpose of having children! But it does look like many are only succumbing to sex when they are ready for their second/third..etc.
If you have an excellent babysitter, I reckon it does get a wee bit easier since then you can go out on a date with hubby the whole Saturday! But if you do not...and worse still if you have a hubby who works seemingly 'all the time', what do you do?
So, how does the intimacy survive after kids? How long did it take before you felt your marriage was on the right path again? How much effort does it take for you to go on a date with your spouse?
This is very personal....share only if you want to, though I wish you to!