So, everyone has a love story. The married ones, at least, on how they found their Mr/Mrs Right.
From all my previous conversation and snippets thereof, I reckon there are a few ways...
1) Accident happened (obviously)
2) Best friends than one day you wondered where to go from there
3) Criteria set and searched and searched until found
4) Criteria set. Searched and searched and cannot find, so settle for 2nd best/person who has ever faithfully been waiting!
5) Selecting the best of all candidates
6) Through prayer and suffercation (I bet that word is spelled wrong! :))
7) Process of elimination
Now, I reckon the first 6 are pretty standard methods that we have either heard of or seen on TV. Method 6, I got to admit can only be heard from a Christian. And method 5 will usually be done when we first hit college (when all the boys and girls are sparkling new and looking to hook up!)
My method was #7!
Now...have you heard of anyone saying they got a life partner by the process of elimiation?
Eliminate what you say?
Elimination of character/traits/issues....I say.
Now I would say that people who follow in my footsteps are really people who are not that particular (just a little particular) about any traits in their life partner. I usually go with the flow and if we hit it off, we hit it off. If we don't, we don't. Move on! So, as each came and went, I recognized that which was 'bad' (only bad actually) and eliminated that from my next choice! Look at the sequence of my elimination.
By the way, I am including everyone I deicded to give a chance to... including those that lasted only a few months! Hey...I am not a loner at heart! And only then can you see what I mean by elimination!
BF #1 - smart, tall, not too cute, easy to talk to BUT had a bad temper
BF #2 - smart, tall, not too cute, easy to talk to, good natured BUT Indian
BF #3 - smart, not too tall, musically GREAT, atheletic, understood me like he was from Venus too!, good natured, Chinese BUT mummy's boy
BF #4 - not too tall, not too smart, not that easy to talk to, good natured, Chinese, independent from mummy BUT he didn't have many friends!
( I never knew a person could have as little friends as he did! oppsss...)
BF #5 - not too tall, smart, easy to talk to, good natured, Chinese, independent from mummy, friends enjoyed his company BUT he too much of a planner (cannot change plans else long face already)!
(And you really can't have 2 people planning the day and wanting to do things their way!)
BF #6 - tall, smart (in a way :)), easy to talk to, good natured, Chinese, independent from mummy, has plenty of great friends, let's me plan away AND married to me!
So...you see, I ended up with hubby for all the ways he is NOT. And it is the ways that he is NOT which makes him the way that he IS!
They say no one is perfect. No person can compliment a person so perfectly from day 1. Mummy always told me that you be with a person whose imperfections you can live with.
I think after 5, I have ruled out most imperfections I cannot stand.
But people always change, there will always be imperfections. And we will always seek to achieve perfection (me, especially).
The true challenge in marriage is to continuously see that which is perfect.
It is NOT trying to make things perfect.
And it is NOT seeing only that which is not perfect.
Concentrate on what is beautiful and everything around it will dim away leaving behind only that which is beautiful.
God changes people. People don't change people.
We can only pray that God works a little faster! :)