Monday, August 25, 2008

Filler #1 till countdown

Watching Korean drama-s lately online at www.crunchyroll.com. Can't watch my HK movies on my DVD coz dad is using the TV and since Lovers in Paris comes recommended, decided to watch it.

Women, two questions.

Would you go for the man that you love? Or the man that loves you?

Do we always fall for the person that we think we can change more than the person that doesn't need changing?

Men, just one.

Would you marry a woman, knowing she loves someone else more, but cannot get him and so allows you to take care of her?

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With the weekday working, the days does pass by faster....196 hours to go as at 2.00 pm Tuesday 26 August 2008. Happy Birthday dearie!

11 comments:

mumsgather said...

Man that loves me.

JLow said...

I have heard that women prefer men who love them more than they love the men.

This doesn't work for me.

Call me calculative. I prefer to see some ROI (return on investments!) in relationships. At the risk of being branded conditional (after all, who isn't?), I would want to be "loved back" when I love someone. I would (I have?) tire mentally and emotionally if I felt I was "wasting my energy" pouring all my attention and emotion on someone who would not necessarily felt the same for me (back).

andrewjune said...

ahhh...tricky qstns...
i thk it's better if both parties are having the same feelings...then only it will last long...
having said that, i do know a lot of couples who actually is only an one-sided relationship...
relationships are complicated, sometimes two ppl fall in love easily and they can also fall off from it very easily...
so it actually depends on the situation :-)

korean dramas are usually triangle love stories...rite?

Moomykin said...

I think realistically there would be one more devoted than the other, but it's best of course for both to be just as in love with each other...

Ok, let me answer the question.

I think for the woman it's important for her to marry the one who loves her because she will in time learn to love the man for who he is.

If she marries the man she loves, but he does not love her, chances are she will (as jlow puts it) become emotionally and mentally exhausted and, very likely in a female's make up, be totally tortured or will torture him until they call it quits.

This week I have already met with 2 friends who are not happy in their marriage. Sigh...

Mummy-yeoh said...

Hmm...I agree with Moomykin. But I also believed that love cannot be measured, so its diffiult to say who loves who love more. Its either you do or you dont.

But I have friends who love guys who dont love them and went throught a series of mental and emotional fix.Then they lose hopw in love. That is sad

InfanT said...

I reckon the best situation is having both persons love each other. Somehow, i guess there would one party love the other a lil bit more.

Anyway, your post reminds me to be thankful that I've met someone that I love.

KM said...

I am catching my favourite korean drama "Jin Xin Niang" on SCV too...and the episode last night left me crying...

Sad.

To answer your questions,
I always go for the men that i love, but i end up with a man that loved me first, then as time go by, i begin to fall in love with him too..

Yeah, i always fall for people i thought could be changed easily, but ended up with one that i could not change. He is just being HE!


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Julie said...

What you said is true. Women, two questions...but men, just one. Why ler? Cause they are not as complicate as women...hihi.

I would go for a relationship where both love each other. Those days my mom will tell me to go for the man that loves you. Only will do that if I'm still single now and desperate to get married.

cc said...

Man that I love and loves me. Greedy I know, but I won't settle for anything less and forfeit my ability to love.

Angeline said...

man who loves me more...can I say I'm in that situation right now, but he is still unaware?

as for the 'man' question, hmmmm... I guess I need to ask him...later tonight when he is back...

Ann said...

Dear fellow genders,

Thanks for your comments. Ideally both should love each other equal (if there is a measure for that). But marriages seem to last when it is the woman that needs to fall in love in time with the man she decides to marry. Reckon if the man loves her, she will feel touched and learn to love him back. PROVIDED her heart is free.

JLow, your comment is very much appreciated and understood too. It is hard fo either party to continue clapping thin air. I am glad you and hot mummee are both clapping hands together ya! Cheers.