Monday, September 7, 2009

2nd Pregnancy

They always say the 2nd delivery would be easier. I guess coz you know what to do already, the body also remembers and all essential parts have been ballooned to be able to handle the output.

But they never told me the 2nd pregnancy would be harder.

Harder coz
you can't lie down even though you are bleeding and feel like throwing up
you still have to cook for the other kid (hubby can take care of himself)
you still have to make the meal palatable OR ELSE!!!
you have to take care of the kid while hubby cleans (since I can't do it anymore)
you have to accept the sheets hubby chooses although they are far from colour coordinated
you have to start buying appliances to make cooking as easy and as smell free as possible (bought a slow cooker!)
you can't shop as much as you would want for the 2nd baby (walking with a toddler is tiring enough...not to mention....)

So basically its all to do with the FIRST KID. Especially with you have an active toddler like mine. Who (I kid you not) NEVER sits still. Unless I put on TV in which case I get 10 minutes rest. And especially when they are at the age that requires HEAVY disciplining.

How do you all do it? How even do you go on to the 3rd one? Or maybe the 3rd one is easier since the 2 other siblings can play with each other?

But (100% confirmed) I am intending to stop at 2 unless an accident happens (will not.).

22 comments:

reanaclaire said...

oh Ju Ann... now when i come to think of it, i wonder how i did cope with that.. i am all along working so after my CRIB, i was ok, can do anything like normal only have to be more careful.. when cooking is concerned, my kid ate whatever i cook.. he was going to be 3 then.. no special food separately as far as i can remember... anyway, Ju Ann, somehow we will cope.. that is why ladies are always special in a way!

dont worry so much.. u will survive it all! :) do take good care of yourself though, dont over exert, do what u can do only...

Ponytail said...

that's the thing...u just outlined all the worries I have even just thinking about it :p

nobody knows how's the 2nd or 3rd one gonna be like...we can just pray and hope it would be easier

i really really wish my Mom can be by my side when I am expecting # 2

Take it one day at a time :)

Cynthia said...

take it slowly my dear.. we mothers will have ways out in order to make things work.. just slowly...

Irene said...

u are scaring me *yikes*

andrewjune said...

yeah you're "scaring" me as well hahaha...
but i sort of guess it should be tiring cos we hv to tcare still of the first toddler...and if she/he is a hyperactive one...ohhh...

perhaps can ask favours from your in-laws or parents?

take care and i know you can do it, ann!

LittleLamb said...

its not going to be easy..but i m sure you can handle it..plus God strength is in you. He will give you peace.

Take care..

Mummy Gwen said...

Maybe you should get your Hubby to involve more in taking care of your son? Your info helped me alot..hehe. I'm sure you can do it..no need to be perfect lor.

Julie said...

It's tougher with pregnancy #2 and after. Age is also catching up by then and you have less stamina. Really rely on our husbands' support. Thank God that we have one good husband, isn't it?

hissychick said...

Ann, I am not going to pretend it is easy but it won't be as bad once you are out of the bleurgh that is the first trimester :)

Lots more TV than usual...lots of 'creative' non smelly meals (ie sandwiches) will not hurt your boy one bit for the next little while..

Take care xx

eugene said...

The best of pregnancy is to enjoy it,together with the whole family, i mean the hubby, and the other children........

take care now and take it easy,ya

mommy to chumsy said...

Poor you, Ann. Hang in there.

FAMILY FIRST said...

Hey Ann - congrats! Take it easy and relax a bit, though hard to find the time.

FAMILY FIRST said...

One thing for sure, Im stopping at one! Unless accident lah!

Baby Darren said...

i can't agree with u more....i already told hubby that i am stopping after this. although i always wanted 3 kids...

It's def not easy and I also feel that the body also not taking the pregnancy as well as the first one. No luxury to lie down and rest as much as u wanted. Pain and aches here and there. I don't even have the energy to explain things to my toddler. He is becoming a king in the house now...

Anyway, just hang in there. Hopefully things will turn better after reaching 2nd trimester. I am waiting for that day to come..

Moomykin said...

I think every pregnancy and every delivery is one-of-a-kind experience. Both wonderful and awful at different times.

Take care, my dear.

Merryn said...

Itu pasal ler I am holding from getting number two.. at least not at this moment..

Sarah's Daddy and Mommy said...

You are having morning sickness now? Poor you. Last time I had a worst time threw out almost whatever I ate.

Be patient Ann..and the good and sweet time will come when you see Christopher sayang and talking to your lil baby inside the tummy.

coffeesncookies said...

I'm not having #2 but I do sometimes think abt how different it'll be. First pregnancy, I have the liberty to do all I want, to enjoy my preg, go for walks, ante natal class, etc but things will be different with a kid in tow.
Somehow, we are moms and I believe we'll make it, even if it's #2, #3 or #4. You'll find your own strength to pull through it and enjoy yr preg. differently from your first. Take care :)

Angeline said...

The trick is lower your expectations. *wink* Do not expect to perform as well as when you were not pregnant.... Its ok to slack, its ok to shout "hey I need help here." Its ok to let loose the rules.... its ok....

*huge hugs*
What you can't do, don't do. Do what is a necessity and not a 'I had to do this...'
Because there will always be a never-ending of 'had to do this and that'.... but do what is CRITICAL... that's how you get loads and stress off your heavy-enough body....

Cecilia said...

Congratulations to both of you. Normally, the first trimester is the hardest and it does get easier once you have worked out a routine. Make sure that you eat well so that you have the energy to cope. You know where to get cooked food if you are not in the mood for cooking. My kitchen is always open for you and Christopher loves my food. LOL

mumsgather said...

I like the part about the uncoordinate sheets. Haha. Seriously, it may feel very tough right now but you'll soon forget, you'll see.

4malmal said...

hey havent been visiting for a while now and I AM PLEASANTLY SURPRISED!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

I agree it is tiring esp the first trimester...esp when u have an active toddler! and I never believe in having 2 kids with close age gap, cos I will be the one going crazy!

good that u have your family to help out...remember to rest more...and take care!