Thursday, June 27, 2013

Renovation 1.03 - TNB, Syabas and Civic Centre

So, hubby took leave today to do all that.

We googled TNB and Syabas to get their address in PJ the night before.

Was told that he paid RM280++ for TNB deposit and processing fee. Syabas extracted RM130 from him.

And to get the standard house plan for our backyeard extension, he had to go to Civic Centre PJ. Cost him RM200 for a give standard extension. Advice is to bring ALL the documents you have when you go there. He told me they needed to have a look at the S&P as well as the Hakmilik Sementara document which shows your area/street plan.

After the choice of extension was made, you had to fill up a form, go to another building to make the payment. And then return to the office to show them the payment slip.

Then you are all good to go.

Seems the green dustbin is to be hired by the contractor.

So, we are waiting the final quotation from our contractor before work begins.

What exciting times.

And how slow my bank account is increasing. I literally wait every month end to watch it grow. I would need 3/4 months salary in with as little out as possible to cover only half of what I expect the renovation will cost.

Exciting times indeed.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

PTA 2013

At last PTA in Christopher's kindy.

This year Christopher's kindy was taken over by another person. We were not told of this till late last year and also through another teacher. I was a bit irritated at first but given it was Christopher's last year, I just let it be.

However, I LOVE the new principal and the new ideas she brings to the kindy. The PTA was also different in a sense we were brought up one by one to see the teacher. Not in the general area where the kids were also playing.

While waiting, I saw video clips on what the kids did during the school term. I saw in most pictures my son always holding his friend's hands. I saw the various activities and games they engaged in. It was really good to see all this.

My meeting with the principal was good. She briefed me on all of Christopher's subjects. Unlike in previous years where each teacher will brief me individually in the subject they thought. Meaning that all the teachers knew everything about each child.

Christopher did very well in his science followed by BM (surprise, surprise), English, Mandarin and Maths. In fact the teacher told me he really loves his science because they actually go out and see, feel, do.

As always, I get feedback that he talks more than he listens. But if he listens, he does his work pretty well. And as expected, he gets along very well with all his friends.

She told me that she speaks to Christopher purely in Mandarin to make them comfortable with the language. And in fact she told me of late, he is speaking back to her in Mandarin too. OH! where was she when he first started school??? Anyways.....

The principal also showed me, since I asked, ther 3 year old syllabus. It is partially imported from Taiwan and partially the Malaysian syllabus. I was impressed with the Taiwanese concepts. Concepts to train hand eye that will help in their logical thinking and writing. How such simple concpets of learning with fun leads to the greater picture. It was so interesting. I am looking forward to my daughter going to kindy next year.

All in all, a good PTA. An eye opener for me. And I loved it that she ended the meeting asking me for feedback. Her openess and honesty, love for the child, creativity in teaching is something I greatly appreciate.

When sorry is the hardest word Part II

I actually looked up the same title before I started this post. I remembered writing about it when this lesson had to be taught to Christopher.

Christopher says it so easily now. He does something wrong and he just says sorry and so far, he genuinely means it.

Caylee is going through this stage now. An incident happened however that changed her demeanour forever (I am hoping).

As usual this girl loves to disturb her brother. So happen kung kung was playing with Christopher building some lego and block structure. And this little girl slowly inched her leg out and made a structure stumble.

Kung kung was so mad with her that he smacked her leg. Of course she cried and screamed. Given poh poh was sick, I took over Caylee's discplining.

I pulled her to the back room (which is also her crying and calming down room) and made her sit down. I left her there until her crying started to wear down. I normally leave her there and tell her she can only come out when she has stopped crying.

So, when her crying simmered down, I went in to talk to her. I asked what she did. She told me she knock kor kor's toys. I asked her if what she did was wrong. She said yes, what she did was wrong. I asked her what she should do if she did something wrong. She said I should say sorry. So I told her to go out and say sorry to both kung kung and kor kor. And she practised saying it in the room with me.

As I was walking out of the room, she lagged behind. I asked her to come on and get it over with. She said in that quiet still voice. "Mummy, I am scared."

I tried to coax. I even threatened to leave her in the room tonight and she can sleep there all by herself if she doesn't say sorry. She actually looked around the room to see if she could muster enough courage to sleep in the room herself. That was the degree of fear she had to face the situation.

In the end, I brought her out. Made her talk to kung kung without saying sorry first. When kung kung touched her to hug her, she literally sobbed. Despite it all, my heart broke to see her emotional struggle.

She told kung kung she is tired. She will be going upstairs to sleep. Good night kung kung. Sorry kung kung. And then she quickly turned to me 'Mummy, please bring me upstairs'. She also apologised to kor kor and said good night to kor kor.

Since then, whenever she accidentally or purposely did something wrong, she would quickly say sorry. No need to be told to say sorry.

For me and kor kor, Caylee usually has no trouble saying sorry. Although perviously it was not the most remorse sorry. But she says it and tries to make up. After the kung kung incident, I find her sorry now more cautious. She says sorry and then looks at you (with a little fear) trying to gauge if you are still angry.

It is the hardest word to learn, harder than please and thank you. But what a powerful word it is.